I forgot to mention in “Horse people” part 1, that this is a common question that I get asked by ranching types, when I first start a therapy session.
“How are you doing?” It’s a polite comment, and very thoughtful, and it feels genuine. Other demographics don’t care as much how I’m doing, and rightfully so.
You’re having a lot of pain and dysfunction. Who cares how the doctor, therapist, or assistant is doing. And we’re about to charge you a small fortune to lecture you about what you’re eating, and how much you should be exercising.
But no, the horse people want to know how I’m doing.
I always answer that I’m doing great, because with the conditions I’ve seen in my career, I’d be embarresed to say otherwise. I really am doing great. They may sense some sarcasm in my voice, in relation to corporate or HR policy, when I say “Fantastic!!” But I never want to complain to the client.
This line also makes me laugh, as it reminds of some east coast, Italian inflected tone, “How you doin?”
So when they ask me “How are you doing?”, this is what I’m thinking…(this is a collective of characteristics, of course no one specifically…)
I’m doing great…
… because I’m not missing any appendages from horse rope amputations. I’m not bow legged enough to create a small highway underpass. I’m not shoveling horse stall shit, or moving 80 pound hay bails, with my one good arm. I’m not doing the ranching chores while using a walker (true story). I don’t have new joints (yet). My x-rays don't look like erector set schematics. I’m not in constant pain, somewhere.
This is a common conversation I have with horse people;
Me: Did you have pain with that exercise?
Them: No
Me: Would you tell me if you did?
Them: Smile and no answer.
I think part of the reason you are great is that you get to work outside all day, my retirement dream. I'm sure that's naive. Maybe you wish you were in my air conditioned environment, sometimes.
I’m of course envious of their constant optimism, and friendliness.
In case you missed it, here’s the first article about horse people,
